Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Where Are You Guys Coming From? – Post #50

"Hey, lemme ask you a question -- in these nudist colonies, do they eat naked in the dining room?"

"I would imagine it's all naked."

"What about the chambermaids, are they naked too?"

"They're naked. The gardener's naked. Bellhops. It's one big Nude-O-Rama."

~ Seinfeld, Jerry and George, “The Contest”

Tuesday, 1/29/13 3:11 PM
At home

Please take the new survey on SurveyMonkey.  It’s got more in-depth questions than the first one in 2010 and it includes age, race, and location, so the results will have more meaning and relevance.


About a year ago, I began asking the guys coming to my parties (as opposed to simply being on my list) where they come from. Specifically, the zip code or, if international, the country.  It makes me appreciate you guys more, knowing how far you’ve come.  It’s also been one of the more interesting stats because I’d had no way of knowing that guys were actually coming from places like Switzerland and Hong Kong and Poland and....

But that’s for the next post.  This one is more general.  See the site for the colorful graphs.  It breaks the attendees down among The Bronx, Brooklyn, Manhattan, Queens, Staten Island, Long Island, New Jersey, Upstate New York, Outstate (outside of NY and NJ), and International.

Those areas are further broken down to the safe sex and bareback parties.  Which boroughs have more guys practicing safe or raw sex and which have fewer?

Overall, a little more than half of the attendees come from Manhattan, at 56%.  The next borough, in terms of frequency, is Brooklyn, at 12%.  That’s a big drop-off, especially when considering how close I am, in The East Village, to Brooklyn.  New Jersey comes in third at 10% and half of that number is from Queens (which is a subway trek), at 5%.  Slightly more guys come from outside of NY and NJ, than Queens, at 6%.  Very few guys come from The Bronx (2%), but that may be more of a travel logistics thing than there being fewer gay men in that particular borough.  Staten Island, though...I’m not sure that there are a lot of gay men there.  Forget the percentage (0%); check out the actual number of guys who’ve come: two.  Yeah, the transportation logistics may have something to do with that number (ferry, anyone?), but combined with the fact that there are no gay bars on Staten Island and I’m left thinking it’s a pretty straight borough.  Only 2% come from upstate NY and 5% are outstaters (outside New York and New Jersey), and another 5% from outside The United States entirely.  19% are not from New York at all.  We get more international men and outstaters around the December holidays.

But is there a difference in guys coming to the safe and bare parties?  Not a whole lot, but there are a few.  According to the men who’ve come to my particular parties, fewer from Brooklyn, Manhattan, and The Bronx attend safe sex parties, while more guys from Queens and Long Island attend the safe parties.

Twice as many guys from The Bronx have attended my bareback parties, than the safe ones.  However, as not that many guys come from that borough, the numbers could be skewed either way.  Queens, however, is a little different.  While almost twice as many guys from Queens are coming to the safe parties than the raw ones, the number is probably more accurate since there are more Queens guys coming than from The Bronx.  Internationally, there’s been no difference, both at 5%.  Same goes for Outstate (6% each).  New Jersey is also very close (10% safe, 9% bare).  Upstate New York is very similar to The Bronx, in that not many Upstaters come, but twice as many come to the safe parties (2% to 1%).

These numbers likely correspond with race and ethnicity, as some boroughs tend to have more of one, than the other.  I also collect that data as best I can, which I’ll post here later.

Next week’s post will break down Manhattan into its different neighborhoods.  Which are the gayest neighborhoods?  Then we’ll see what states and what countries.  Stay tuned...


One of the reasons that men choose not to attend a sex party is the fear of running into a guy they know.  Back in ’07, when I’d first discovered orgies, I told my (now late) ex-boyfriend about them, to which he replied, “With my luck, I’d run into someone I know.”  It’s really too bad because I am totally sure that he would’ve had a great time.  He unfortunately died shortly afterward, of cancer.  If he hadn’t, I think he’d have started attending them.  He was an exhibitionist and he never fully explored that aspect of himself.

Over the course of 516 parties I’ve hosted, I’m only aware of it happening three times.  All three times, it was really no big deal.  One of them would leave, and all three of them returned to future parties anyway.

Some guys think, “It’s just sex, so what’s the big deal?”   Personally, though, I would prefer not to run into someone I know from work or wherever.  It’d be too weird.  Not the end of the world (and maybe even kinda cool), but probably weird.

But herein lies one of the benefits of hosting parties that are “only” 15-25 guys...the chances of running into someone is far less than going to a party with 50 guys.  If that’s an issue for you, but you still really want to attend sex parties, I’d recommend coming here or anywhere there are fewer attendees.

Don’t deprive yourself if you don’t have to.  Life is too short.

The Örgy Guy

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

SurveyMonkey and Would You Do Porn? – Post #49

Jerry: No, I'm not gonna tell her about your shrinkage. Besides, I think women know about shrinkage.
George: How do women know about shrinkage? (They see Elaine walking down the hall) Elaine! Get! (She enters) Do women know about shrinkage?
Elaine: What do you mean, like laundry?
George: No.
Jerry: Like when a man goes swimming... afterwards...
Elaine: It shrinks?
Jerry: Like a frightened turtle!
Elaine: Why does it shrink?
George: It just doooes.

~ Seinfeld, “The Hamptons”

Monday, 1/21/13 3:43 PM
At home

According to the latest blog poll, 43% of you guys think that men are at their hottest when they’re over 40 years old.  38% think it’s guys 30 and under.

I chose 45 as the hottest age.


This is the fifth installment of the results from the 2010 sex survey I posted on surveymonkey.  Please check out the new one.  The last post talked about who likes to be watched.  This time it’s about who’d do porn.  Who’d rather be filmed having sex, bottoms or top?  Make your prediction.  The graphs are at


The last post showed that the same percentage of tops and bottoms enjoy the idea of being watched, but that barebackers get into it more than safe guys.  But is being watched the same as being filmed, presumably to be watched?  Not really.  Being in porn adds another dimension to it, that of being recognized.  There’s a lack of control associated with it, too; you don’t know who’s watching.

In which case, I added the choice, “Yes, but with no face showing.”  That is how I shoot the porn I produce and sell.  This way, you know it’s regular guys and not guys who have to be paid to perform for you.

The 177 men who answered this question tended to like the idea being in porn.  Almost two-thirds said Yes, but with no face showing, while 14% out-and-out said Yes, even with my face showing.  That leaves fewer than one one quarter of the men who said No to doing porn.

Far out.

When breaking it down among bottoms, tops, and verses, it’s the bottoms who’d be most into being on film.  Approximately two-thirds of all three categories of guys opted for Yes, with no face, but bottoms were more apt to say Yes, even with faces showing (22%).  Tops (7%) and verses (11%) were a lot less willing to be recognizeable. 

Generally, though, bottoms, tops, and verses weren’t that far apart.  At least not as far apart as safesexers and barebackers.  A whopping 26% of barebackers would allow their faces to be seen in a porn film.  26%!  Combine that with the 67% who said Yes, but with no faces showing, and we’re left with a measly 7% saying No Thanks to being in porn.  35% of safesexers said No, which is five times as many.  And only 2% of safesexers said Yes to being recognizeable, compared to 26% of barebackers.

So, what do you make of this?


The new survey is up on SurveyMonkey.  It’s got more in-depth questions than the first one and includes age, race, and location, so the results will have more meaning and relevance.  Here are the sixteen questions:

1.  Age?
2.  Race?
3.  Where do you live (zip, city/province, country)?
4.  What is your relationship status?
5.  Have you ever been to a sex party (at least 5 guys)?
6.  Do you use a condom for fucking?
7.  Do you use a condom for oral sex?
8.  Are you bottom, top, or vers (scale 1-9)
9.  How masculine do you consider yourself to be? (scale of Not At All Masculine to Totally Masculine)
10. Approximately how many times per week do you have sex?
11. Approximately how many times per week do you have masturbate?
12. How old were you when you GOT your first blowjob?
13. How old were you when you GAVE your first blowjob?
14. How old were you when you topped for the first time?
15. How old were you when you bottomed for the first time?
16. Who is one image-googleable example of your type of guy?

I hope (if you’re a gay man) you’ll take the survey.  It shouldn’t take long and you’ll be able to see some interesting results in the near future.  See where you stand in relation to whatever groups with which you may identify.


Other than the SurveyMonkey data, I studiously keep certain data on my parties.  One of those is attendee zip code (or regional equivalent thereof), which will be part of the next blog post.  It’s really interesting to see where guys are coming from, literally, from around the world and around the nation, as well as what neighborhoods in Manhattan.

Stay tuned...

The Örgy Guy